I can relate to that last bit. Heck I've been trying to tell them to let us play a game without a system designed to encourage griefing for awhile now. EVE is more than a little one sided, with actual mechanics in place that assist griefers, gankers, and the like. Point of fact, there is no sysem or mechanics in place, to encourage people to be other than pirates.
If you want to succeed at EVE, you pretty much have to take the securiy hit, and walk down the dark, desolate path of the griefer. Actually, it's not so dark and desolate; it is in fact filled with life and home to vibrant, wild parties, because nobody who plays EVE for long, (except maybe myself and a few others), stays the path of the non-griefer. It's very lonely on this side, and there is almost nobody to really play with, because they have all left the game or gone over to the other side.
Okay, I'm being pedantic or maybe obtuse, or a little of both. The reality is I am no more interested in playing EVE than you seem to be, and it has nothing to do with the character creator. That's just your hardware not keeping up with the times, and maybe the times not being quite ready for the background code for the character creator. Even my system gets a little dodgy around it sometimes, and it's perfectly capable of handling much more intense graphical simulations.
So yes, you're right EVE sucks, and I think I found the answer here:
They will not be catering to immaturity in the game, however, they would like to see these types of offenses policed by players, rather than in-game mechanics.
- maybe this is the problem. Given the attitude presented here, combined with the complete lack of tools for 'good' players to fight bad, and utter disregard for the fact that their agression mechanics make any player policing other players a pirate with a GCC and neg. security status...
Yeah, that's pretty much it. Not only does it encourage griefing, it rewards it, and make it so anyone fighting back is either getting shot by gate guns, or letting the ganker warp scram, web, and shoot them before taking action, aside from trying to run like hell.
What's new? This is EVE as they say.
So yeah, I understand, and I'm sure somebody else is, and I'm pretty sure it's not CCP. That doesn't make them suck though. They just seem to think it's the way people want to play. Just read their recent comments on Dust, and how they're leaving it open to player interaction like some sort of mad experiment. Same thing they did with EVE, same thing they're doing with WoD.
Sorry, but I don't think it's going to change. My only suggestion would be to join a Nullsec alliance, and get in that way. There really isn't another way.