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julia chickenshak
Amarr
Posted - 2011.03.19 22:02:00 - [1]
 

My wife and I have been playing Eve together since before we got married. We do almost everything together here. We run a corp together, we mine together, we fight together, I even built us a 4 screen, 2 tower workstation affectionately named "Mission Control".Linkage
I know, not terribly original but who cares right?

We were talking over a couple asteroid belts the other day and we wondered, how many other couples (married or not) live a life irl AND in Eve?

We have made Eve a part of our daily lives together. It helps us spend more time together especially since I am disabled and I can't get out much. We have been everywhere in this game from hisec carebearing to nulsec alliance life to losec roaming etc. and I have to admit, it adds an element to our relationship that would otherwise be hard to find, a "shared" interest.

Are we the exception or the rule when it comes to couples and Eve? Are we alone?

I would like to hear from other couples on this subject and also how it affects both the quality of your relationship AND the quality of your game time?
Does having your significant other ingame help your enjoyment or not? Does your relationship suffer or benefit from your shared Eve time?

These questions mostly apply to couples who both play Eve but I'm willing to listen to couples who only one person plays too. I imagine you have some input as well Very Happy

Archbeholder
Posted - 2011.03.19 22:05:00 - [2]
 

Originally by: julia chickenshak
Are we alone?

yes

Bevil Smyth
Caldari
Deep Core Mining Inc.
Posted - 2011.03.19 22:11:00 - [3]
 

Id love to get my mrs into eve, I honestly think I stand a chance after 3 things occur:
1) incarna
2) she graduates
3) she gets a mac book pro or gets a sensible computer :P

until both those things come about unfortunately i can only dream of playing with my partner as you do! Sad

Dr Sheepbringer
Gallente
Halinallen veroparatiisi
Inglorious Carebears
Posted - 2011.03.19 22:14:00 - [4]
 

With my missus I think...when hell freezes over. Even then...probably not.


Enjoy mate....and then she scams the whole corp from you YARRRR!!

Yari Setsuna
Posted - 2011.03.19 22:23:00 - [5]
 

My fiance just talked me into playing Eve a couple months ago, but since then I do nearly everything in game with him. I definitely have *way* more fun running with him (whether it's mining or missions), and it adds another common interest to our daily conversations. All in all I'd say gaming as a couple is a total win. Very Happy I also know of at least one other couple that plays together, so while there doesn't seem to be a lot of us, you're not alone at least!

Also: We're currently only set up on 3 screens, but should be expanding to a "Mission Control" similar to yours within the next week. Cool

Logan LaMort
Gallente
Posted - 2011.03.19 22:37:00 - [6]
 

That's actually going to be the future with my fiance when we get our own place, except our mission control would be for all the games we play together.
We even created two new characters with the same surname, a kind of fresh start in EVE since for the next 6 months we won't have much time to play, so we can just keep our alt characters skilling up.

But this isn't just an EVE thing, we play a lot of online games together on the PC and 360, especially FPS. Only problem is were it's so fun to play together, playing these games online without each other just isn't the same.

Catheryn Martobi
Posted - 2011.03.20 00:05:00 - [7]
 

A major part of Eve is the underhandedness and backstabbing nature it's players often utilize against each-other. Do you think if your significant other displayed some of these role-playing traits against your character it would estrange you IRL?

Nic Roscoe
Posted - 2011.03.20 00:23:00 - [8]
 

You are not alone - my husband and I play EVE together too. It gives me another something fun I can do with my best friend. I get to benefit from his vast research and he always has a ready and willing fleetmate.

Sometimes, we'll be talking about what needs done around the house and the conversation will all of a sudden be about proper cruiser fittings.

I recommend EVE as a couples activity. (or at least one of them Wink )

julia chickenshak
Amarr
Posted - 2011.03.20 00:36:00 - [9]
 

Originally by: Catheryn Martobi
A major part of Eve is the underhandedness and backstabbing nature it's players often utilize against each-other. Do you think if your significant other displayed some of these role-playing traits against your character it would estrange you IRL?


I can safely say that backstabbing and underhanded scams are not something we would ever do to each other. We play together as a team much the same way we approach rl. Eve is not inherently dishonest, it just allows that as a possibility. We watch each others backs.

Sader Rykane
Amarr
The Dark Space Initiative
Revival Of The Talocan Empire
Posted - 2011.03.20 00:43:00 - [10]
 

Assuming there's a divorce? Who gets the Nightmare?

NightCrawler 85
Phoibe Enterprises
Peregrine Nation
Posted - 2011.03.20 00:46:00 - [11]
 

Me and my husband has a more..unusual situation.. We actually met in eve years ago, Ironically..i recruited him,which seems to be more..rare in the eve world even if i know of atleast two couples that met,and got married because of eve.

But the ironic thing is that we dont "do" much together ingame.We are in the same corp,but now he is the ceo,and im the recruiter so we have our own things to take care off next to our different interests in the game. Ofc we will run missions together or mine but normally we dont spend time together in game.

But we will talk about eve stuff when we are out,or just doing housework,or remind eahother about ops's or discuss corp issues in real life.

I guess the best way to say it is..we dident fall in love and got married because of eve. But eve gave us the oppertunety to get to know eachother on a level most couples will never exsperiense.

Being from the offosit side of the planet,and still maining a relationship over years where you only get to see eacthother a few months a year,and the rest of the time you have to relay on things like skype,its harsh.

But still...thank you CCP! If it hadent been for you we would never have met,and we wouldent have been married now Very Happy

vulnevia
The Exploited.
Posted - 2011.03.20 00:55:00 - [12]
 

I met my boyfriend at a corp-bbq. The corp I was in has had an annual BBQ since 2005 or something, and of course I had to attend.
Anyway, we were 30 guys and 1 girl (me (two if you count one guys wife)). At first I just drank beer and talked a lot of EVE with the other guys (I had met one or two before). We decided to have a small PVP-tournament with almost untrained alt-chars just for fun (I won my only match thanks to drones).
After a few hours of beer drinking (we did have a beer-killboard) we decided to watch Clear Skies (if you haven't seen it, DO IT!!!. I stole one of the last chairs and of course we had more people than chairs. Anyway, a tall and scrawny guy picked me up and placed me in his lap. he thought it was a waste of space to have a girl sitting at a chair when he couldn't.

Remember. This house was crowded. 30 odd people in a 3-4 bedroom house. So. Me and the guy (let's call him Findus, hehe), had to sleep under the sitting room table. Other people claimed we disturbed their PVP.
The next day we slept in the laundry room. Too bad for us, the laundryy room was just between the basement (beer!!!) and the living room.

This was the summer of -08, but we hooked up spring 09 and have been together since then. We're not in the same corp at the moment, but my BF isn't really an active eve-player atm either. He mostly logs in to changes skills.

So EVE brought us together. And I wont mention the other 4-5 eve-players I er... exchanged pod fluides with :D

Val'Dore
Word Bearers of Chaos
Word of Chaos Undivided
Posted - 2011.03.20 01:31:00 - [13]
 

My fiancee is actually trying to get me to stop playing games I like. I'm not sure how long it will be before she gives up on that ludicrous notion.

Apostrophe Man
Posted - 2011.03.20 01:45:00 - [14]
 

KHITBASH

Joe Skellington
Minmatar
Matari Legion Holding
Matari Legion
Posted - 2011.03.20 02:19:00 - [15]
 

A family who plays together, stays together.

Tavin Aikisen
Caldari
Revenent Defence Corperation
Ishuk-Raata Enforcement Directive
Posted - 2011.03.20 02:36:00 - [16]
 

I'm trying to get my girlfriend to just try EVE but she won't. She did say she would sincerely try it once Incarna hits so I'm hoping that'll help.

I know for a fact she'll like it. I have no doubt if she sat past the mission running and tutorial and got involved in a fleet she'd enjoy it. She really enjoys social games that don't rely on material goals. She loves the concept of EVE, always asks about player influenced events and the like and she's been interested in the Minmatar back story. She currently plays Mortal Online and has tried Ultima Online (just stopped because it's so old).

In terms of quality of the relationship it can be good or bad. PC gaming is a hobby of mine. I don't need other people to enjoy it. Infact only one or two real life friends even play games. The only negative really is that she loves to play games WITH me. She wants the computers near to each other, she wants to talk outside the game. I personally hate this. I liken it to people having a conversation while watching TV... shut up so I can hear it and immerse myself in the moment! :P


Nemesis Factor
Caldari
Deep Core Mining Inc.
Posted - 2011.03.20 06:17:00 - [17]
 

Originally by: Tavin Aikisen
I'm trying to get my girlfriend to just try EVE but she won't. She did say she would sincerely try it once Incarna hits so I'm hoping that'll help.

I know for a fact she'll like it. I have no doubt if she sat past the mission running and tutorial and got involved in a fleet she'd enjoy it. She really enjoys social games that don't rely on material goals. She loves the concept of EVE, always asks about player influenced events and the like and she's been interested in the Minmatar back story. She currently plays Mortal Online and has tried Ultima Online (just stopped because it's so old).

In terms of quality of the relationship it can be good or bad. PC gaming is a hobby of mine. I don't need other people to enjoy it. Infact only one or two real life friends even play games. The only negative really is that she loves to play games WITH me. She wants the computers near to each other, she wants to talk outside the game. I personally hate this. I liken it to people having a conversation while watching TV... shut up so I can hear it and immerse myself in the moment! :P




As your evil twin I will do my utmost to seduce her and get her to play with me.

Christopher AET
Segmentum Solar
Posted - 2011.03.20 06:22:00 - [18]
 

Edited by: Christopher AET on 20/03/2011 06:23:12
So I got my (now former) gf into eve and bring her into a corp I am in. great I think. Until I realise she is turbobatshnitinsane and I get rid. Of course we have facebooked a few eve buddies and she gets chatting to one. Apparently they are now engaged. Life is weird huh.

Edit-Neither plays eve any more.

Jamaican Herbsman
I Love You Mary Jane
Posted - 2011.03.20 08:57:00 - [19]
 

Wow. Reading these replies makes me wonder how would it be, if my gf played EVE with me. I can't even imagine. My gf hates EVE. We've had several fights over EVE and my gaming in general. She thinks playing games is a waste of time. I've tried to introduce her to simple games like Bejeweled, Wii sports or Guitar Hero, but she just doesn't like playing. Hell, getting her to play even board games can be hard.

Yeah, I'm bitter.


Denaris Aschanna
Posted - 2011.03.20 09:24:00 - [20]
 

When I first started playing my then partner and I joined at the same time (introduced to eve by his son lol) and we used to mission and mine together. I went on to join a corp and he was happy staying in the noob corp - his interest was already waning at that point, and when he got jumped and blown up decided it wasn't the game for him.

He died a year later, and I actually found my corpmates a real help in getting through that time.

Fast forward a few years, I'm now happily married, unfortunatly he has no interest in eve whatsoever. However he was impressed with the new character creator and had a play with it, but has no interest in 'fairy washing up liquid bottles in space' as he calls it Laughing, We don't really argue over Eve, he does his thing in his office, I do mine. There's far more important things to argue about anyway!

He does like playing some games and even dabbled with Second Life at one point, so I'm quietly hoping that Incarna will tempt him to give eve a try.

Holy One
SniggWaffe
Posted - 2011.03.20 10:19:00 - [21]
 

i find couples who 'do everything together' creepy and strange.

Valek Noor
Amarr
Eternal Phoenix Rises
Dark Phoenix Rising.
Posted - 2011.03.20 10:36:00 - [22]
 

I am probably the complete opposite to this thread cause my partner of 8 years left me because of eve!

i then went on to loose my job and my house.

Eve and i stopped seeing each other for a while, it wasnt for long though.

I soon had a new better job, a nicer and bigger house, more time to play eve

And best of all dont get nagged to death for staying up till 2am on fleet opsLaughing

okst666
Posted - 2011.03.20 10:51:00 - [23]
 

couple here.

I started playing 2 or 3 years ago.
She was cool with eve, but more dedicated to fantasy mmorpg like Ryzom, DDO, later Fallen Earth.

She did not like the concept of being a ship instead of a character or person.
Then I showed her the incarna character creator and the walking in stations stuff we all know and now she is addicted to eve. Flys a drake and shoots the crap out of lvl 3 missions.


ATARI BABY
Ministry of War
Posted - 2011.03.20 10:58:00 - [24]
 

Edited by: ATARI BABY on 20/03/2011 11:00:57

lucky people.

i have been playing for 6 years. switched 4-5 girlfriends. non of them interested with eve. some of them hated it. i can imagine how much fun it woud/could be.

but... hope dies last huh.

Mattias Kerensky
Minmatar
The Flying Tigers
Intergalactic Exports Group
Posted - 2011.03.20 11:23:00 - [25]
 

My fiance and I both play (I had to bug her for around a year to get her to try the game, but once she did, she loved it) we're in the same 0.0 corp and she's better than me at just about everything eve. Figures. Also I got her a Thanatos for xmas instead of a RL gift, as ingame gifts don't cost rl money. :P

Hatch Nasty
Caldari
Mean and Nasty
Posted - 2011.03.20 12:57:00 - [26]
 

My wife and I have shared our gaming experiences from time to time. I started playing WoW when it was first released in late '04, and by Jan/Feb '05 my wife decided to try it. She took to it pretty quickly, and we did the whole "couples gaming" thing. Created similarly named characters, only played them together, etc. It didn't last long.

My wife and I have a great marriage. But one of the secrets to a great marriage is to have things you do together, while also maintaining a private space for each partner. I use gaming as "me time" when I can do whatever I want, pursue my own goals and distractions, and just generally unplug from life and plug in to fantasy. As it turned out, my wife felt the same way. We both found that having to play the game in a way limited by or structured around team interests diminished our mutual enjoyment of the game.

In the end, WoW became a common interest, but one we generally enjoyed separately. We would often have long conversations about the game, tactics, events, patches, etc., and would even occasionally group to help each other with a quest or something. But for the most part, we played the game separately, joined separate guilds, etc.

I've long since moved on from WoW to other games. She still plays it (mostly out of habit I suspect). I've been nudging her to try EVE, and she's agreed that she'll give it a try sometime this year, probably after Incarna. It's likely that our playing dynamic in EVE will not be very different than in WoW, but who knows? We might be corpmates working closely together, we might just be allies with aligned interests.

EVE's design, notably the lack of a "level" element in favor of realtime-based advancement, lends itself much more readily to situations of asymmetric playtime than do level-based games. Rather than having to "level together," a couple in EVE can pursue their own interests separately and joint interests together. Each can play as much or as little as they want, but can still play together and contribute without having to be joined at the hip. So I think if it turns out my wife does enjoy EVE, there's a greater likelihood of us playing EVE together when we're both online, since it won't be a situation of a level 60 warrior trying to run a quest with a level 10 priest - and being ham-stringed by the game mechanics.

I can tell you this, even if my wife does take to EVE and we end up playing a lot together - we will never have a "Mission Control." My wife and I share an office at home, but it is a room over 30 feet long. Her desk is at one end, my desk is at the other. We share a common ground in the middle where there's a couch and TV. We have been married for almost 13 years and are very much a part of each other's lives, but we do not want to merge into one being like some kind of GrendelFly.

To each his own though, I'm not judging. Wink

Max Godsnottlingson
Amarr
Max G Storage and Logistics
Posted - 2011.03.20 13:20:00 - [27]
 

lol A few years ago I was in a Corp with a young husband and wife team who played Eve together.

One day they had a worried phone call from their 8yo sons teacher, who had set some work about "jobs mommy and daddy do" and he'd told of how "mommy mines asteroids while daddy hunts ebil space pirates"Very Happy

Cors
It's A Trap
It's A Trap Alliance
Posted - 2011.03.20 14:07:00 - [28]
 

Hmm. If my wife played eve with em.... she'd be better at it then me. Better memory. She'd make a good CEO.

But she's got no interest in games. At all. Hell, she won't even use games on a smartphone.

Something Random
Gallente
The Barrow Boys
Posted - 2011.03.20 15:14:00 - [29]
 

My partner and i have been playing Eve together for the last 5 years. Ive dragged her very quickly into doing everything interesting in Eve - she still loves it but is the first to say we gotta do something else rather than just log on and play for a while. Its only RL that drags us both down from being VERY active indeed in Eve, the hearts are still up for it.


De'Veldrin
Minmatar
Norse'Storm Battle Group
Intrepid Crossing
Posted - 2011.03.20 15:32:00 - [30]
 

While my husband doesn't play Eve (he plays Wow - but he does have some good qualities too) we actually met playing Vampire the Masquerade in an online chat room. It sort of ballooned from there we've been married for 10 years now.


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