What race you does not change what ships you can fly. The main reasons for choosing race are rollplaying, appearance, and attributes.
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You will want to max Perception and Intelligence because the vast magority of your combat skills (PVP or PVE) will have those as primary. Memory will be primary on a few, and secondary on most of the ones where Intelligence is primary so I would recommend that as your third priority. Willpower is secondary to Perception for you ship and shooting skills. As mentioned earlier, Charisma is the least used skill. Because of this Caldari Achura is a popular race for minimizing Charisma while maximizing Perception and Intelligence.