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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
Posted - 2011.08.25 16:38:00 - [1]
 

Edited by: Akita T on 25/08/2011 16:48:53

Civil service on 11/11/2011 starting at 13:30 (with 10-minute slots), so if I'm lucky, pronouncement will be at 13:37.
Yes, we got the reservation confirmation already.
MWAHAHAHA. Twisted Evil

Wife keeps old name, we'll also be filing for separate finances (hooray, finally the laws that allow that come into effect in a little over a month from now), will still be living in separate cities and just visit eachother when we can find the time for a while, until the "big wedding" (probably somewhere in April, or maybe later), when we MIGHT be moving in together.
LaughingLaughingLaughing

When I say "big wedding" I mean everything except the civil service - you know, all that stuff with the stupid church (hopefully we can get a under-10-minute service there too, we're both non-religious anyway, but the older relatives are, so, meh) and the sort-of-party with oodles of relatives and acquaintances afterwards.

By the way, the day was her idea, the hour was mine (but I didn't tell her why :evulz:).
And SHE asked me to get married all out of the blue (it was just hours after she got back to her home after a 1-week visit over here), and I said "oh, well, why not" LaughingLaughingLaughing
How freaking romantic, eh ? Twisted Evil

The relationship has been going on for nearly 10 years now (with two breaks), but more than half of it was medium distance (3h drive or so) with about two and a half years of long distance (different countries) in 3 separate countries (USA, Germany, Turkey) overlapping both.
Also, never lived together under the same roof so far (visiting doesn't count, right?) so it might get dicey when we finally move in together, heh.
Freaky arrangement, eh ? Razz


Oh, well, guess this means my heavy posting days will be coming to an end sooner or later...
I'll still be around for sure, but not as much as usual.
Heh.

Cpt Greagor
Caldari
Liquid Relief
Posted - 2011.08.25 16:42:00 - [2]
 

We're all invited right?

Sasio Shihari
Posted - 2011.08.25 16:43:00 - [3]
 


Congratulations...

Destination SkillQueue
Are We There Yet
Posted - 2011.08.25 16:43:00 - [4]
 

Shocked It all makes sense now.



PS. Congratulations on getting married.

Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
Posted - 2011.08.25 16:44:00 - [5]
 

Originally by: Cpt Greagor
We're all invited right?

If you would cover your own travel costs to Romania and contribute as much as the average guest, I don't see why not Twisted EvilTwisted EvilTwisted Evil

Cpt Greagor
Caldari
Liquid Relief
Posted - 2011.08.25 16:49:00 - [6]
 

Originally by: Akita T
Originally by: Cpt Greagor
We're all invited right?

If you would cover your own travel costs to Romania and contribute as much as the average guest, I don't see why not Twisted EvilTwisted EvilTwisted Evil


I guess this all depends on what you consider "contributing".

Zagam
Posted - 2011.08.25 17:15:00 - [7]
 

Congrats!

My wife and I aren't religious either, and we got married in a non-church setting (Linkage) by a retired judge (which is legal in TX). Not sure if weddings in Romania have to be done by clergy, but if a religious wedding isn't required by law... you might want to look into it.

Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
Posted - 2011.08.25 17:26:00 - [8]
 

Edited by: Akita T on 25/08/2011 17:38:45

Originally by: Zagam
Congrats!
My wife and I aren't religious either, and we got married in a non-church setting (Linkage) by a retired judge (which is legal in TX). Not sure if weddings in Romania have to be done by clergy, but if a religious wedding isn't required by law... you might want to look into it.

As soon as the civil service is over, we're already officially man and wife.
No religious ceremony necessary as far as the law is concerned.

However, the "peer pressure" from the older relatives (and there's plenty of those to go around on HER side) make at least a token of a religious ceremony necessary on the day of the "big wedding" (which will happen almost half a year after we're already married).
Afterall, Romania is sadly even more religious that the USA (belief in God is among the highest in the European area - Linkage), and even older people that aren't really that religious at all would still insist on the religious ceremony "because that's how things are done".
Oh, well.

Originally by: Cpt Greagor
I guess this all depends on what you consider "contributing".

A Romanian wedding is usually a "half a day" affair, starting before noon (church) and ending after midnight (at the party area), with another get-together (but only for people with closer relationship to the bride and groom) for a few hours the next day.
The "party" time (usually minimum 6 hours, quite often 8 hours or longer) is expected to be spent at least half on the dance floor, with a multi-course meal (usually 5 courses or more, and almost nobody is a vegetarian, so such options are seldom even considered) spread in between dancing sessions, with a wide selection of drinks (mostly alcoholic) available at all times.

Tradition for Romanian marriages is not to give useless appliance gifts or such (as is the case for an US wedding), but usually to give cash gifts.
No, seriously, it's Romanian custom, ask around (or google it). Cash. Really.

The "polite" minimum amount of contribution depends on relationship to the bride and groom - godfathers are expected to contribute the most, distant relatives and casual acquaintances are expected to contribute the least - and should at a minimum be slightly over the likely amount spent by the wedding organizers per guest (so it also depends on location the wedding is held, duration, quality of food and service, how much fun you had, etc).
So, for instance, a single guest of minimal relation to the wedding couple (just enough to get invited) would be expected to contribute somewhere in the vicinity of 135-170 USD equivalent (400-500 RON) at a bare minimum, just to avoid looking like a jerk, but double of that is considered rather generous.

Hey, partying is rather cheap over here.

Lately, the gifts are usually handed over NEAR THE END OF THE PARTY in sealed but named envelopes, and are opened by the bride and groom's family after the wedding is over. People (which are normally seated based on relationship to bride and groom) usually discuss with eachother how much they're going to donate based on how enjoyable the experience was.
It USED to be much cheesier before though, with the collection being a public affair (starting with the godfathers and moving down the "closeness to wedding couple" ranks) and the M.C. shouting out the donated amounts. Yes, lame, but it's still practiced in quite a few places (and the amounts donated by the godfathers are expected to "set the tone" as far as donation amounts go). We're not having any of that though. Sealed envelopes for us. Heh.


Cpt Greagor
Caldari
Liquid Relief
Posted - 2011.08.25 17:32:00 - [9]
 

Originally by: Akita T
...stuff...


Ok, so I come, get free drinks a party and all I have to do is mail you a toaster? Seems simple enough.

Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
Posted - 2011.08.25 17:33:00 - [10]
 

Edited by: Akita T on 25/08/2011 17:43:37
Originally by: Cpt Greagor
Ok, so I come, get free drinks a party and all I have to do is mail you a toaster? Seems simple enough.

You might want to read that again Smile
In Romania, you hold a wedding to make money, not to spend money Twisted Evil

NeoShocker
Caldari
Interstellar eXodus
BricK sQuAD.
Posted - 2011.08.25 17:44:00 - [11]
 

Congrats Akita :-)

hope your new wifie doesn't pull you away from forum whoring :P

10 years is a long time, but never really lived together? Like never together for a month or something?

Cpt Greagor
Caldari
Liquid Relief
Posted - 2011.08.25 17:45:00 - [12]
 

Edited by: Cpt Greagor on 25/08/2011 17:45:43
Originally by: Akita T
Originally by: Cpt Greagor
Ok, so I come, get free drinks a party and all I have to do is mail you a toaster? Seems simple enough.

You might want to read that again Smile


I did, it definitely said toasters.

Originally by: Akita T
Tradition for Romanian marriages is not to give useless appliance gifts or such (as is the case for an US wedding), but usually to give cash gifts toasters.
No, seriously, it's Romanian custom, ask around (or google it). Cash Toasters. Really.


Obsidian Hawk
RONA Corporation
RONA Directorate
Posted - 2011.08.25 18:33:00 - [13]
 

Ok so we need to all fly to Romania and bring you a ton of booze. Got it! Congrats!

Blacksquirrel
Posted - 2011.08.25 19:01:00 - [14]
 

Open bar? It's not really a good wedding without one... Trust me.

Justified Cause
Posted - 2011.08.25 19:04:00 - [15]
 

Congratulations Akita, i'll be missing your posting also, nice pronouncement time :)

Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
Posted - 2011.08.25 21:28:00 - [16]
 

Edited by: Akita T on 25/08/2011 21:28:42
Originally by: Blacksquirrel
Open bar? It's not really a good wedding without one... Trust me.

Open bar, of sorts, yeah, that's also a tradition.
Meaning the hard liquor is spread quasi-evenly all around the tables with some reserves off the tables in case any runs out (and ice brought forth more or less constantly), but the lighter drinks like beer and such are usually kept in the cooler and you need to ask for it.
Originally by: Justified Cause
Congratulations Akita, i'll be missing your posting also, nice pronouncement time :)

Heh, thanks.
Also, I'll still be around, just less often and in shorter sessions.
Wink

Cpt Placeholder
Posted - 2011.08.25 21:57:00 - [17]
 

Congratulations!
You even took the proper precautions.

Rgarcia
Posted - 2011.08.25 21:57:00 - [18]
 

Congrats. And wow, I should have gotten married in Romania instead of TX. Weddings are to get money? Woohoo!! Sad My wedding was cool but man, would have been better having people there giving money!!!!Very Happy

Bear Templar
Reality Dysfunction Inc.
Posted - 2011.08.25 22:01:00 - [19]
 

Does she know about Eve?

Jago Kain
Amarr
Ramm's RDI
Tactical Narcotics Team
Posted - 2011.08.25 22:15:00 - [20]
 

Grats on your impending nuptuals, hope it all goes smoothly.

I'm not going to bother with marriage myself; I'm just going to find a woman I don't like and buy her a house.

Thank you thank you, try the veal, I'm here 'till thursday.



Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
Posted - 2011.08.25 22:19:00 - [21]
 

Edited by: Akita T on 25/08/2011 22:26:32
Originally by: Bear Templar
Does she know about Eve?

Ayup, she does.
Not a gamer chick though, but tolerates my "gaming needs" to a higher degree than the stereotypical woman.
I can only assume that's going to drastically change as soon as a kid will enter the picture, you can call my gaming days suspended for a few years for sure in that case. Heh.

She's more of a travel enthusiast (semi-obsessed with Asia and the Middle East), she's been to a truckload more countries than I have - other than the three mentioned before (USA, Germany, Turkey) where she lived for months at a time (in Turkey it was a year and a half, the other two about half a year), she's quite often visited Poland, also been to Thailand and Malaysia for a couple of weeks, quite a few other counties for brief visits (some of them with me in tow, but not too often), and wants to visit China and Nepal, also spend a good while in India (a month minimum) whenever she can spare the time.
Oh yeah, and she's probably going to be going on most of those trips without me even after we get married. She knows I hate travel.

In the "downtimes" while together, usually keeping busy with movies and TV shows. At least in the movie/series department we have mostly overlapping tastes. She's not too much into sci-fi, but not against it either, and I have wider tastes that the stereotypical man, so, eh.
She co-owns (with her mother) a small jewelry business (faring rather poorly in this economy though, but before it was the perfect excuse to engage in travel "for shop supply") and is also working as a full-time high-school biology//sciences teacher (specialized in German-speaking classes). She's also wrapping up her 3-year doctorate (in silkworm rearing), should be done by the end of summer in 2012 if all goes well.

AlleyKat
Gallente
The Unwanted.
Posted - 2011.08.25 22:58:00 - [22]
 

pics or it didn't happen Laughing

stoicfaux
Gallente
Posted - 2011.08.26 00:10:00 - [23]
 

Congrats!

p.s. Happy Wife = Happy Life.


Jon Taggart
State War Academy
Posted - 2011.08.26 00:14:00 - [24]
 

Give my condolences to your future wife. Smile


...Congratulations! Laughing

Dorian Tormak
M0N0LITH
Posted - 2011.08.26 01:11:00 - [25]
 

Edited by: Dorian Tormak on 26/08/2011 23:07:41
Make sure and hide your dirty midget p.orns, she may not take kindly to that kind of stuff.

Nimrod Nemesis
Amarr
Royal Amarr Institute
Posted - 2011.08.26 02:20:00 - [26]
 

Congrats Akita and let me not be the first to welcome you into the... sometimes happy world of married life.

I think you've got a hedged bet with a wife that travels. I know my marriage would have been stressful in short order if I were not over-seas quite a bit myself. Absence making the heart grow fonder and all that. Laughing

Umad Bro Questionmark
Posted - 2011.08.26 03:24:00 - [27]
 


Dude, you got my utmost respect in typewriter font. May you be forever happeh and 1337.

Slade Trillgon
Endless Possibilities Inc.
Posted - 2011.08.26 11:00:00 - [28]
 

Congratulations Akita!


Slade

Malcanis
Caldari
Vanishing Point.
The Initiative.
Posted - 2011.08.26 13:50:00 - [29]
 

Gratz man, sounds like a very easygoing arrangement. (Don't move in with her)

Louis deGuerre
Gallente
Malevolence.
Posted - 2011.08.26 13:52:00 - [30]
 

Edited by: Louis deGuerre on 26/08/2011 13:52:13
Best wishes ugh

Will EVE TV be there ? Shocked


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